1. Everythng would be great if I lost weight/quit my job/got a boyfriend, etc.. No, everything would be just like is now, except you'd weigh less, be unemployed or have someone to watch 'Lost' with - and there's chance you'd be complaining about something new. Happiness comes from within, so appreciate the good things that are in your life now.

2.Hard work speaks for itself.I don't need to ask for recognition. This little lie spares you the potential awkwardness of having to blow your own trumpet.But unless you do , all you're likely to hear is silence.

3.He really loves me.. he's just afraid to commit.
Why would you choose someone who won'tchoose you? If he's afraid of love, then maybe you should be afraid of him?

4.They'll never know I lied. Even if you don't get caught and life goes on, it's not quite the same. Funny how lying makes you think everyone is too.

5.Sure, I'd love to go. If you really would like to go, terrific. Saying yes to life is wonderful, if you mean it.But saying yes reflexively to every invitation could mean you're giving up your life to enhance everyone else's.

6.I couldn't say no. Actually, you could have, but it's hard to say no when its's not what the other person wants to hear.Figuring out your reasons for not wanting to say it could help you find the courage.

7.Some people are lucky ( I'm not one of them)
This lie undermines your power to control your destiny - and to claim credit when good things come your way. Because the more you belive in luck, the less you belive in yourself.

8. I can quit anytime. The cigarettes. The non-stop shopping. Telling yourself that you have a bad habit but that you could always quit is crafty.You think that admitting that what you're hooked on isn't good for you, you're on top of things. If you're really on top of things, prove it: quit.

9.If I looked Like Sienna Miller everything would be easy.
Do you really think a breezy, rejection-free life is there waiting for someone just because she's gorgeous? Hello, Jude Law slept with the nanny!

10.A little Tan won't hurt. What part of 'wrinkles' or 'cancer' don't you understand?

11. I don't need any help. Denying you need emotional support may feel like independence, but it's often a lie that protects you from revealing vurnelability. And nothing makes friends faster than vulnerability.

12. If I had time I'd... write a book/exercise more/go back to college, etc.. You're busy, I'm busy.Is lack of time a handy excuse for not doing the things you really want to do, but that, deep-down, you're scared of failing at? Stop talking about doing and just do it!

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